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Today's topic is Relationships.

Now I won’t be giving you- How to make a gf/bf bullet points(probably) cauzz idk haha, however, I think this short blog can be a good read. 🌚

Human relationships are the most complex things in the universe that aliens have yet discovered.
And I totally agree, I mean there are a zillion different variables which lead two individuals to really connect and have a spark!
From getting a good Englsh teacher who esclated hollywood for them to them losing someone they love and getting really mature. First meeting, getting involved in an activity, personal problems during initial months, previous experiences, first time, the list is never ending.
And yet, humans like an ant trying to climb a wall, never lose hope.
While some eventually settle, there are some golden worriers called Hopeloss Romantics.

My Credentials😌:
Why am I writing this? - Idk
Have I cracked the relationship code? - Not at all!
Am I in sexual-romantic-relationship? - Nope!
Do I have deep relationships? - Yes
Am I awesome? - Totally!

Today, If you will meet me, you will see cheerful, funny, smart, extroverted guy. But, if I backtrack just about 3-4 years back, Idk what to say hahaha. Even with my family, my relationship was not deeeep.

However, things had to change as I am a Hopeless Romantic (although, learned this word a few weeks back😤) and I forever wanted an amazing romantic life ❤, when I reflected I didn’t see that coming, I didn’t even have a good relationship with myself or anyone in the world, how am I supposed to attract or have an amazing romantic life in future?

• Could I make people laugh? - No
• Was I happy? -No
• Was I vulnerable - No
• Did I really love myself? - No
• Can I really love someone? -No
• So, Will someone really love me? -No

This shocked me to my very existence.
I was just a fat person, who isn’t happy, who has no meaningful relationship, who does not contribute anything to this society.

{insert fatty chandu}

Now, if you know my name -CGR, aka Chandra Gupta Roy. Historically, one of the greatest kings that ever ruled on the Indian Subcontinent and was the founder of the largest Empire that ruled India was named Chandra Gupta. So, Idk, how that relates🤷‍♂️😅 but I had to do something, not little by little, not slowly, but BIG change, quick. I was almost 16 and I felt that there was no time( long list-get fit, develop skill, earn money, learn humor, learn zillion different things about people, clothing, looks, dating, eating, etc.. ) to go slow, improve sustainably. I wanted a Romance asap, I mean romance in my 20's. Right? (with lots of money, of course, no time not at all🥵 )

Fast forward three years, I am fit, I have skills, I am doing freelancing 🤑 and looking forward to doing startups, I have learned many things related to people, I can make people around me laugh (learning from Chandler Bing [Friends], Barney Stinson(How I met your mother) and the king of Sarcasm: Ryan Renolds.)
Have very very deep friendships? —Not really, working on it! Read Ahead...

The Relationship part… Will I find it- I guess😂😂

I am actually working on Friendship part. The science of making friends, it seems very complicated.
The real question is that are the friendships as deep as it seems or is that just a hangout to avoid being alone?

Common Tips: Be vulnerable, respect people’s choices, learn everyone’s different, make people laugh, laugh at yourself, smile genuinely, make eye contact, really listen to people, just have an open heart.

What I have learned- People more than anything want to connect at a deep level. Just real talk, share experiences. However, they are locked to themselves, everyone. We don’t trust anyone to open up.

Love can be a chance, aka dumb luck -Otis Milburn(Sex Education), but Friendship is required for that luck to play its cards, in fact, I really think that friendships must be promoted more, which may or may not culminate into dating, etc in future which is the last part but a person needs friends who listen to each other. How can this be achieved?
Well, idk. Finding out...Finding...Trying...haha
Actually, I have always difficulty making friends and really connecting with people, idk why maybe it is what it is, however I am awsm, so...
Btw, I have a lot of free time, literally wrote this website for fun!

My observation/theory (School/College):
It starts with contacting each other someway in classes.
Getting involved in talking.
Getting time to talk(dumb luck, maybe)
Getting involved in activity together
Crossing the boundry of class friend.
Meeting/ Hanging outside the restricted boundry of institution.
Sharing lifestories
Helping each other.
etc... idk more. These are basic observation from movies haha 😅.

Most importantly deep friendships are formed when we really get involved in a group activity ie. just spending time with one anoher in something of common interest.!

Finally, I wish you good luck for finding a dozen great friends who care for you and a person who will love you beyond your imagination and will come to the moon for you ❤.

Just go and start a thousand conversations, wear Nike and just do it ✔😂😅

Btw,
Researchers say Relationships contribute the most to a person’s happiness and overall well-being, so don’t neglect it. It does not take as much time as we imagine, it would.
But also, I think we must not become/ stay in relationship just because of our need to get a sense of belonging, instead find where you really belong. Lastly, subscribe... Subscribe!